Are American women just crazy or ignorant?

I don't understand how anytime in this country people talk about gender roles or the 1950s, women automatically get on the defensive and go basically nuts and talk about how their "oppressed" and men view them as inferior and how their not going back to the kitchen. First of all, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Who's making you go back to the kitchen? And second, this is 2011. So all of that crap women tote are total BS because they are the main ones in control of most businesses today. Feminism has been fed and forced down everyone's throats. There are rare cases of sexism in this country (America) today. So why are women up in arms about not being equal and blah blah blah?! You already ARE equal in basically everything in society. The only thing you don't seem to have a monopoly over is having a d*ck.